7 Guidelines for the Bride's Dad
Besides, of course, the very important role of father of the bride, the dad of the day plays a key role in wedding planning and the wedding itself. In honor of Father's Day this month, we thought we'd share seven guidelines for duties traditionally overseen by the bride's dad.
Today more and more couples help pay for their wedding themselves, but it is still commonplace for the bride's family to pay for the majority of wedding-related costs. In fact, just 1 in 10 couples pays for the wedding entirely on their own, according to < href="http://theknot.com" target="_blank">TheKnot.com. The bride's parents still pay an average of $12,000 toward the wedding day. After the engagement announcement, the bride's dad should look at finances, decide how much they are willing and financially able to contribute, and discuss the budget with the bride.
Hit the Dance Floor
The father of the bride traditionally dances with his daughter at the beginning of the reception. There's a proper order for the wedding reception dances. After the introduction of the bride, groom and the rest of the wedding party, the bride and groom share their first dance as a couple. Next up is the father/daughter dance, while the groom dances with the bride’s mother. After that, the bride's father dances with her mother, and the groom asks his mother to dance, and then the groom's parents dance with each other.
Be a Wedding Wingman
The mother of the bride will likely be tied up with some of the big picture duties, from flowers to food. The dad of the bride can help out with all the millions of other details that may fall by the wayside. Do tuxes need to be picked up? Does anyone need a ride from the airport or an Uber ride scheduled? Has the bride forgotten anything that needs collecting? Dads are great for helping tie up any loose ends.
Walk Your Daughter Down the Aisle
The traditional role of "giving your daughter away" may become more modernized but it's still a common part of wedding ceremonies. The bride's dad will walk her down the aisle to meet the groom at the altar, while wedding guests and the wedding party and officiator look on.
Make a Toast
During the reception it is customary for the father of the bride to make a short speech, thanking the guests and talking a little about his daughter and new son-in-law. At the end of the speech, he usually proposes a toast, raising a glass to the happy couple. Dads should prepare their speech well in advance and practice it so they can deliver it with ease. This isn't the time to bring up any of their daughter's embarrassing childhood moments or past boyfriend horror stories.
A daughter getting married is a happy occasion, but it can also be stressful and cause strain on her relationship with her mother. There are bound to be disagreements between the bride and her mother over who should arrange what and how things should be done, so dads can jump in as a much needed peacekeeper. Dads should be prepared, and willing, to listen to both parties and encourage them to find a middle ground.
Have Fun and Make Memories
There are several key duties to oversee on the wedding day, but dads shouldn’t forget to take a minute or two to pause and take it all in. It’s a special occasion and love-filled day not just for the bride and groom, but for the entire family.